‘He Paid Me £3000 For Staying The Week With Him’ Says Sugar Baby

Imagine a life where all you had to do was date, talk to and keep a much older man company in exchange for an ‘allowance’. Imagine if you didn’t have to worry about student loan, buying a car or getting your nails done because you had a sort of ‘sponsor’. The correct term for this kind of sponsor is a ‘Sugar Daddy’. The BBC have confirmed that a quarter of a million girls (some of which are students) are using Sugar daddies in exchange for lavish living. There are arguments that this sort of lifestyle could be associated with prostitution but a female I interviewed, (who has asked to keep anonymous) who is a committed ‘sugar baby’ speaks to me in depth about this world.

Q:How long have you been doing this?

A:It all started in 2015 when I applied for university. I was 18. Student Finance told me I would be receiving £3500 for the year and I was applying for jobs but got no success. I hate asking for help, especially as my mum is a single mother so I became desperate. I came across a website called ‘seeking arrangements’ which is sort of like a sugar daddy/sugar baby tinder (laughs). So I heard about it from a friend and thought, let me give this a try. I set up a profile and within a week my inbox was flooding in messages. I took interest in one man in particular because he shared the same interests as me according to his profile. We both had a passion for travel and as I was studying Travel and Tourism at university, I realised that he could push me closer to my dreams. I took the risk and accepted his offer to meet him in Florida which was an all expenses paid trip. He paid me £3000 for staying the week with him and we stared travelling together regularly. When I realised how quick and easy it was to make money from the site, I decided when I got back to drop out of uni and pursue this full time. 

Q:Why do you do this?

A:I do this because it’s an easy way of making money. I don’t have to work for stupid £7 an hour when I can make £400 for 15 minutes, do you get what I mean? I have a 17 plate Mercedes and my own flat, all of which wouldn’t have happened if i stayed at university. I’m very happy with my life. Happier than I have ever been.

Q:Do your parents know?

A: Yes, I ended up telling my mum and she’s fine with it. All she said was ‘protect yourself, don’t get pregnant’ (laughs)

Q: What exactly entails within a Sugar Daddy, Sugar Baby relationship?

Well, it depends. Some just want company, someone to talk to. Others want eye candy and the majority want well, you know. More (laughs). All I know is wether its just for a drink or for a night, i’m not providing anything for free.

Q:People can argue and say ‘you’re basically a prostitute’. How does that make you feel?

A: I don’t care. couldn’t care less. I’m not a prostiitute because I actually get to know the men I sleep with and its never a one off. This is an arrangement. So it’s like a business deal. Personally, I think there are a lot of morals behind this. This is my job. Some want to stack shelves, I would rather do this.

Q: Will you ever stop?

A: I’m not sure. I’ve been saving up if I’m honest so I might do, just not anytime soon because I have bills to pay. All I know is, I can’t ever go back to a sh****y 9-5 job ever again.

Seeking Arrangements is a website that is made for young girls to ‘fund’ their lifestyles and in exchange offer ‘companion’ to their sponsor. The majority of girls on the site go to university. What does that say about the depths that students are going because of the expenses of university? I asked the female that I interviewed to put me in contact with one of her former ‘Sugar Daddies’ and he asked for anonymity for obvious reasons.

Q: How old are you and how old are the girls you go for?

A: I’m 62 and I do not even respond to any girl under the age of 18. 18 is the minimum i’ve been with and the youngest I could ever go for

Q: If people argued that there could be a psychological link with being a ‘paedophile’ because you are attracted to girls more than half your age, what would you say back?

A: I am not a paedophile because I don’t date children nor do I see girls under 18. Upon first meet, I ask the girls to being ID and as travelling together is part of the arrangement, I see their passport in advance. Trying to call me a paedophile is a ridiculous statement. 

Q: What caused you to become a sugar daddy?

A:Well, my friend at work was talking to me about his own experience with a younger woman. It made me realise that my wife and I don’t have as much spark as we did when we first met. I just wanted to feel younger again and I feel like my wife doesn’t appreciate me or my money anymore, so I would rather pass  time with someone that does – even if that means paying them

Q: I got your information from ANON and she told me she met you on a Sugar Daddy website. Are you still on Sugar Daddy websites? If so, how many girls do you meet?

A: Yes, SeekingArrangments is actually where I met ANON and I am still on the website. I pay a monthly membership and it has definitely been worth my while. I have met over 45 girls in the last year, 30 or so of which were university students.

Q: You say you’re married. Why don’t you divorce your wife and do this full time?

A: I have kids and also divorce is too expensive. My wife is more like my friend and I am way too secretive for her to ever find out. Although she’s my friend, I love her very much and I wouldn’t want to hurt her. I don’t want to do this full time because my wife loves me and these girls don’t. I know that but hey, it’s all a part of the adrenalin.

Q:What would you do if you found out your daughter was doing this?

A: I would feel deceived. I know I sound like a hypocrite but thats my baby. I couldn’t let her do this for money. I would expect her to ask me. (Pause) I would rather not go in too much detail about my personal life if that’s okay. 

Q:Do you not feel like this is a waste of your hard-earned money?

A: Not really because I take it as I’m helping people as well as making new friends that are giving me the attention I don’t receive in my marriage. I also feel much younger.

Q:Will you ever stop?

A: If my marriage restores, then maybe I will but its hard because my wife isn’t exactly 25 so I’m not as attracted to her as I was in the past.

Maybe if the government offered a scheme that was more of a bursary and not a ‘loan’ then less girls would have to take this path. Although they are all adults, online dating could be a risky and an overly dangerous platform, especially when it’s for paid purposes. What are your thoughts? Is this a way of getting by or do you think its another form of prostitution?

 

-Sychelle Yanda

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